"When I was a boy of fourteen, my father was so ignorant I could
hardly stand to have the old man around. But when I got to be twenty-one,
I was astonished at how much he had learned in seven years."
"By the time a man realizes that maybe his father was right, he
usually has a son who thinks he's wrong."
2. Advice from a Child [back
"You should never ask your three-year-old brother to hold a tomato."
----Alecia, age 12
3. Spirit Whisperer Contemplation [back to top]
Is it possible to expand your vision to see more in your child than he
or she is presently showing? How could you communicate that vision to
your child and to the rest of your family?
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6. Article: How to Invest in Your
Children This Summer [back
How to Invest in Your Children This Summer
by Chick Moorman
My neighbor recently purchased a $400 sandbox for his young children.
How can anyone spend $400 dollars on a sandbox, you might wonder. Simple.
It's a state-of-the-art sandbox with a swing set and slide attached to
it. It's high quality through and through.
With all due respect to my neighbor (who loves his children and has the
best of intentions when making major purchases for them, I am sure), children
do not need a $400 sandbox. What they do need is the experience of going
out to the backyard with their parents and building a sandbox. They need
to hold boards together while we pound and do the pounding while we take
a turn holding the boards together. They need to get a sliver and have
it removed and bandaged. They need to help us sand the boards so slivers
are kept to a minimum. They need to rub shoulders with us, sweat with
us, smell us, see us, touch us, and hear us. They need the experience
of building a sandbox much more than they need the sandbox.
So the number one summer rule for parents is this: When investing in
your children, invest in experiences, not in things.
1.) Instead of buying another stuffed giraffe for your children, take
them to the zoo and let them experience a real giraffe up close.
2.) Buying a new fishing pole is fine, but using it is better. Take your
children fishing this summer.
3.) Have your children seen a horse, touched a horse, ridden a horse?
Purchasing the Disney movie "Spirit" is one thing. Getting in
touch with the spirit of a live horse and feeling its breath on your face
4.) Take a blanket and pillow outdoors at night. Count the stars. Look
5.) Take a walk in the woods. Look for animal tracks. Notice trees and
6.) Play catch, shoot baskets, volley a ball or a badminton bird. Challenge
each other to see how long you can keep the ball going rather than who
can score the most points.
7.) Have a water balloon fight. Get wet. Get wild. Get silly. Get with
8.) Catch fireflies and put them in a jar. Later, let them go.
9.) Go to a parade. Get there early. Stake out your territory with folding
chairs and blankets. Invite a friend or relative.
10.) Pick cherries, strawberries, blueberries, raspberries, corn, apples,
beans, or a vegetable or fruit of your choice. Get stained, dirty, and
11.) Sit around a campfire. Talk. Listen. Roast marshmallows.
12.) Plant a tree.
13.) Write and send postcards - from home or from out of state.
14.) Clean a closet. Collect unused and outgrown clothes. Donate them
to an appropriate charity.
15.) Take a trip to the library. Let your children choose several books.
You choose some too. Read to your children over the next several weeks.
16.) Go on a photo journey. Allow each family member to take a set number
of photos. Create a family album with the developed photos.
17.) Do loving service. Bake cookies for a serviceman or servicewoman.
Mow the grass for an elderly couple. Pick up litter from a roadside picnic
18.) Go garage sale hopping with five dollars in your pocket. Give your
children a similar amount. Come home when everyone has spent all their
19.) Walk in the rain. Sing in the rain. Skip through puddles. Take your
shoes off. Take your adulthood off.
20.) If you live in the country, go to a big city and walk around. If
you live in a city, go to the country and walk around.
21.) Check out a college campus.
22.) Make Popsicles with Kool Aid and toothpicks.
23.) Visit a post office. Mail a letter.
24.) Bring out old photo albums. Take turns saying, "I remember
when . . ."
25.) Cut and paste. Staple and glue. Color and paint. Make a mess. Then
Let your children experience a farm, a skyscraper, a fire engine, a campground,
or a foreign country. Let them smell flowers, look for birds, feed ducks,
or bake cookies. Help them find a four-leaf clover, shuck corn, wash the
car, or open a savings account. Whatever you do, remember: When investing
in your children, invest in experiences, not in things.
In the last issue of the Response-Able Parenting Newsletter, I included
humor that made fun of fathers. The intended joke suggested that fathers
are not as capable of taking care of children as mothers are. Kimber Bishop-Yanke
tactfully reminded me of the importance of permanently laying that stereotype
My apologies to readers for male bashing. My intention is to keep a closer
eye on what I include as humor in the future. Thank you, Kimber.
"Parent Talk: How to Talk to Your Children in Language That Builds Self-Esteem
and Encourages Responsibility" is now in paperback. This 301-page book
by Chick Moorman is available through Personal Power Press at (toll-free)
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9. Announcing: COUPLE TALK: How to Talk Your Way
to a Great Relationship, by Chick Moorman and Thomas Haller [back
This new book is a treasury of practical ideas for building a caring
and respectful intimate relationship. It is filled with language skills
that create honest and open communication patterns between you and your
Learn powerful skills to help you:
* Resolve conflict.
* Increase trust and caring.
* Demonstrate listening and understanding.
* Communicate feelings without wounding the spirit.
* Encourage both autonomy and connectedness.
* Rekindle warmth and passion.
* Revitalize your relationship.
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10. Make A Difference in Your Community [back to top]
Please join us for one of the following facilitator trainings in the
Parent Talk System:
1. Dearborn, MI, July 31 - August 2, 2003
2. Wausau, WI, August 4-6, 2003
Facilitator trainings are designed to prepare local trainers to present
the Parent Talk System to parents in their communities. This 3-day skill-based
training will help facilitators learn strategies that teach parents how
to raise responsible, caring, confident children.
Join a select group of people throughout the world who are already using
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